Well, I have run into a small problem...

[MunkyMan95]

I believe you all know of my recent purchase of the following:

 

NCS 1697 Great Britain Half Penny AG Details, Corroded

1869A Austria 10 Kreuzer NGC AU58

 

In the beginning, what I thought was a substitution for the Austrian coin, was a 1971S NGC PF68 Star Jefferson nickel. Now here's the conundrum: The seller now claims that it was not a substitution, but the wrong coin was sent. He claims that the coin was probably supposed to go to someone else. We have left feedback for each other, and everything seemed fine. He also says that if I send the coin back, he will refund my shipping, as well as send the right coin, plus a bonus coin. If I send him the coin, and he sends me nothing, what can I do? I can't Neg his feedback, can't contact Paypal, can I? I'm wondering if I should just keep the nickel and ignore the guy?

 

 

HELP!!!

[TomB]

If it's an honest mistake then let him make you whole first and be done with it. However, shouldn't he know the status of his coins?

He claims that the coin was probably supposed to go to someone else.

How could it "probably" be intended for someone else? Wouldn't he know?

[MunkyMan95]

Well at the time, I didn't say which coin I recieved in place. He could have mailed one of the coins from his personal collection, I suppose. I looked through his auctions and indeed the coin was there. So do you think I should tell him that once I recieve the coins from him, I will mail my coin or what?

[TomB]

Of course. I don't believe you are trying to rip him off, nor do I believe you would try to take advantage of someone who appears to have made an error, so let him ship you the correct coin and money for postage and then ship the incorrect coin back to him. Everybody makes mistakes.

[MunkyMan95]

I agree. I would want someone to do the same for me if I was in his place. The coin will go out once the replacement(s) get here I suppose.

[pendragon1998]

You're really in the classic Western standoff dilemma:

 

"Give me the coin."

 

 

 

"Toss me your coin first."

 

 

 

"If I give you my coin, how do I know you won't shoot me and take them both?"

 

 

 

"Well, you'll just have to trust me, won't you?"

 

 

 

And so on...I suggest you meet at your convenient local ghost town and have a partner atop one of the nearby buildings with a shotgun, just in case he decides to make trouble.

 

Alternately, shoot him first and you take both coins.

 

That aside, I'd require the replacement and postage before I sent him the other coin back.

[gmarguli]

It wasn't an expensive item. Check his feedback and if it is good send him the coin back and wait for your replacement. He probably needs to ship it to the buyer of the other auction. A little trust would be good since if you get screwed, you're not out a lot of money.

[MunkyMan95]

He's got 98% positive feedback... I think I'll ask for the correct coin(s) before I mail the ones that the he really needs.

[Brotherman]

You're really in the classic Western standoff dilemma:

 

"Give me the coin."

 

 

 

"Toss me your coin first."

 

 

 

"If I give you my coin, how do I know you won't shoot me and take them both?"

 

 

 

"Well, you'll just have to trust me, won't you?"

 

 

 

And so on...I suggest you meet at your convenient local ghost town and have a partner atop one of the nearby buildings with a shotgun, just in case he decides to make trouble.

 

Alternately, shoot him first and you take both coins.

 

That aside, I'd require the replacement and postage before I sent him the other coin back.

 

Hey pendragon sorry to be a nitpicker but this is not a dilemma. While a

dilemma is most certainly a tough decision not all tough decisions are

dilemmas. A true dilemma is where one is faced with a decision where all

the outcomes are equally bad. One usually tries to choose the lesser of two

evils in this situation.

 

I know, I know – shut-up Hays, nobody wants an vocabulary lesson. It’s just

this word “dilemma” is one of my pet peeves. Everyone uses it incorrectly and

it’s like fingernails down a chalkboard to me.

 

Please return to your regular postings.

 

Hays

[pendragon1998]

We've all got them, my friend. Mine is "decimated" - it means to reduce numbers by a tenth and almost nobody uses it that way. Of course, in my illustration, that was indeed a dilemma, since he could either give them the coin and then get shot, or not give them the coin and then get shot. :-)

[Brotherman]

We've all got them, my friend. Mine is "decimated" - it means to reduce numbers by a tenth and almost nobody uses it that way. Of course, in my illustration, that was indeed a dilemma, since he could either give them the coin and then get shot, or not give them the coin and then get shot. :-)

 

Well pendragon actually your scenario is what’s called a “false dilemma”. A

false dilemma is when it seems like there is nothing but negative

choices available, but further study shows there is an acceptable choice. In

your story each side could exchange coins at the same time and nobody

gets shot - a positive choice for all.

 

Ever see the movie “Sophie’s Choice”? This story takes place during WWII

when a young Jewish mother and her children are stopped by a Nazi patrol

as they were trying to flee Germany. The SS officer said she could pass if

she made this choice: He was going to kill one of her children and she

must choose which one would die - if she didn’t choose he would kill both

of them. With no hope of escape he gave her 1 minute to decide. THAT is

a dilemma.

 

On the other hand, I had no idea that “decimated” means to reduce numbers by

a tenth. Of course it does! The root word even tells you! WOW - good

word… now I’ve got another one that will drive me crazy when it’s misused.

 

Hays

[XpipedreamR]

The SS officer said she could pass if

she made this choice: He was going to kill one of her children and she

must choose which one would die - if she didn’t choose he would kill both

of them. With no hope of escape he gave her 1 minute to decide. THAT is

a dilemma

 

 

 

So what did she do?

[Brotherman]

She gave them her youngest child, a daughter, and saved her son. She was haunted by her choice and in later life went insane.

 

It wasn't one of those feel-good movies, though it was accurate in depicting the cruelty of the Nazis.

 

Hays

[HaydenTubbs]

She gave them her youngest child, a daughter, and saved her son. She was haunted by her choice and in later life went insane.

 

It wasn't one of those feel-good movies, though it was accurate in depicting the cruelty of the Nazis.

 

Hays

 

That's sad,thankfully the Nazi's reign of terror was ended after WW II. Unfortunately Muslims in the Middle East are fast making up for the Nazi's absence.